How to stay on track with life during difficult times, 3 tips

How I stay on track with my own life during times with

interruption, ugly thoughts, limerence and other total

annoying things that doesn’t help me progress…

Living in tremendous trauma that just kept repeating itself

I somehow managed to get my master, create my business,

live by myself, travel and have fun anyway.

Looking back, I can now share what I did to stay on track
with what was important:

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Part 1:

  • I cancel everything that is not life saving necessary.
  • I tell best friends that I for the couple of weeks are
    trying to stay on track in life and that if I don’t message
    back on small talk immediately or maybe not at all,
    they should not take it personally ,
    I’ll get back to them as soon as I’m back on track.
  • Delete all social media accounts applications or at least
    make sure I only spend 20 minutes a day in all of them,
    in total. Of course if you work with social media,
    you have to do your job, but then nothing else.
  • Stop watching television or scrolling any channel.

Part 2:

  • Every evening before going to bed I make a list about
    what and when the life saving necessary stuff need
    to be done the day after.
  • Before I go to bed I drink a glass of water, at least,
    maybe I can follow my night routine or I do the simple
    night routine.
  • Write down 5 good things that happened today.

Part 3:

  • When I wake up in the morning,
    I take time to feel my body
    (NO PHONE the first 30minutes at least)
  • I make sure to find the happy thoughts
    before getting out of bed.
    (when I suffer from trauma driven mode
    I have war in my brain,
    and I need to work extra hard on my inner peace)
  • I Brush my teeth (not with fluor)
    and then I drink lemon water
  • Sometimes I can exercise a little or do stretching
  • I journal, I use a mix between my own system,
    Mel Robins high 5 journal and
    The Crappy Childhood Fairys daily practice
  • I eat something, fruit, oatmeal or bread
    if you are not good at eating in the morning
    try with a little bit of fruit,
  • I never start my morning with the phone.
  • I look at the list I’ve made the evening before
    and start preparing the stuff I need to make
    (I work from home so I do almost everything from
    my home office)

I try to remember to plan to eat during the day,
when I worked outside home I brought my own food.

And I also try to remember to drink lots of water.


If you have any advice of how to stay steady on this task
please hit me with your advice in the comments.
I am still working on drinking enough.

When I’ve finished all the thing on the list I make sure
to leave my desk clean and ready for tomorrow.

After the meal I clean,
and prepare for the next day again making a list.

NO television and no use of other devices.
The last 30-60minutes before going to bed.

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This kind of life can be good for a period,
but I also realised that isolating too much
has negative side effects.

So after living a week or 2 in the so called
back on track mode, I need to get out again.

Otherwise, I have realised, I continue live an
isolated life. And that suits nobody.

Living a life in wellbeing and balance is something
everybody deserves, but there is no 1 fits all.

I share my experiences so you can get inspired
to create your better life.

Keep going

XX
Anna

PS: if you need a reminder of why and how you are healing don’t hesitate to get yourself the planner

PPS: if you want to remind other people about your healing journey without always saying it …check out these posters

Who you are – is so much more and greater than the abuse you survived

The other day I scrolled too much, but then somehow I wrote this sentence down, and I am so sorry I can’t quote the person, because I litterally dont remember where it came from.

These words hit me like a hurrycane of love. I felt potential, I felt love, I felt Peace.

Something Ive been craving without even knowing it was that.

Since Ive realised that my autoimmune disease (unexplainable pains in my arms and hands ) probably is a part of CPTSD, I started to heal. From the moment I read about it, my brain began to heal by itself.

One of the things with CPTSD is that I forget the good things.

And today due to my healing journey I remembered this good thing about my life:

Things I never talked about …One of the best job I ever had was at a jeweler in Sardegna Italy in 2016.  Not only did the Jeweler teach me how to fix broken necklaces from pearls, but he also taught me about recycling reusing redesigning and saving materials. This jeweler Renato is skilled to the bone in his work. And I am so proud and thankful of being a student in his aera.

The necklace with amber stones was my grandma’s,…❤

when she got older it was difficult for her to open and close it with the traditional lock, so I asked the jeweler to put on a chain and make it bigger and then she could use it, without a lock.
And so he did and my grandma was able to use it.

Now my grandma is flying free in paradise and I have the necklace now. Today Ill wear it.

The thing I wanted to share with this post is that there exists always beautiful stories in your life and when I really started to know myself I could begin my healing journey for real, and work on and with my potentials instead of suppressing them.

Take care of yourself and Grab a lovely day ❤

With Love

Anna

What happens during and after crisis when you start healing?

I didnt know I had to heal my feelings before jumping into adulthood.

After blogging about fashion and life empowerment, I myself landed in a big crisis… I realised I kept jumping into relationships where I wasn’t seen.

I was in a big crisis because I could see what happened and I didnt know what to do. So after reading and researching I shut out all noise and started seeing my self… and that helped big time 💎

Not being seen as the person we are can give us traumas.

It can literally change our brain if we live in continuous emotional abuse.

Here I show you a video from tik tok about what abuse is to me and how I slowly understood what happened and how I get out of it.

I realised that using tik tok as a media could make me see more of what I already knew.

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMFH5TkN2/

Always stay tuned to your gut feelings, and you come much furter that you’ll ever believe ❤

If your gut feeling is interrupted, then shut out all noise and get back on track.

Or what do you think about how to stay true to yourself and trusting your gut?

Do you have any advice to share ?

Consistency was my weakness

One of my toughest struggles in life has been consistency.

In some ways I can be really consistent but then in other ways I totally lose it.

Now I am restarting my life from scratch.

I lower my expectations but want to be consistent.

Being bullied has many consequences and for many years I thought something was wrong with me.

In a period I even blamed it on the position of my astrological constellation.

But luckily with time I realized that that is not the fact.

Being bullied interrupts and disrupts our ease to be consistent.

Now I’ve realized it

What we don’t know

WE CANT DO ANYTHING ABOUT

But when we start knowing, we can move.

And then new questions arise.

And we seek more.

Until the pieces begin to make the puzzle of life work.

We see the patterns, and now we know what we should have done.

And maybe the uncertainty of what next step to make is freezing our capability of acting. Maybe due to all the traumas already experienced.

Because their is a difference between a learning and a trauma.

And I didnt know that, until 2 years ago.

So I claimed myself of being stupid because I couldn’t act upon learning.

But I did actually act do it without knowing. I have been healing in all these year. Healing of overload of trauma.

But as long as we are breathing we can take a new puzzle and start all over. L

Luckily I see it now

Thinking in new ways, acting in new ways and appreciating in new ways.

Today, instead of getting annoyed by my son wanting to be home from kindergarten. I appreciated that he wants to be with me.

This way if seeing the situation made it lot more easy and beautiful to work and stay home with him.

If you want to share with me your ways of making your days more beautiful and easy to live. I’ll be amazed.

Love Yourself

Loving ourself is the most important skill we can use in our daily life.

When we love ourself, we get more confidence,

and it is  easier to avoid limiting factors,

because it gets easier to notice and decide what is good for us.

We love ourself by loving the way we are, enjoying the good things we do,

and learning from the things we could do better.

We can start by looking into a mirror telling ourself with a loud voice:

I love you!

Remember to look yourself into your eyes.

It seems very awkward the first time,

but try to focus on the feeling that you get inside your body 

after you have told your self: I love you.

The feeling you get has something to do with the positive meaning of the words

I love you,

and that particular feeling helps you make your life more beautiful and easier to live.

When we love ourself we are also our own best friend who supports us in every single situation. 

Join the maillist and get all our best tips on how to be your own best friend:

Know more about how to be your own best friend and thereby love yourself more

With Love

Marie & Anna

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HOW TO DEAL WITH CHANGE

9 LIFE STRATEGIES
TO EMBRACE CHANGE AND GET EMPOWERED

Change happens to all of us, and all of us can decide that change can happen.
Change can happen deliberately and it can can happen unexpected.

Some changes are easier to deal with than other.

One thing is changing our furniture, another thing is changing our life.

Change includes also loss, some heavier than other, but when
realising that change has happen or has to happen we can deal with it.

From the moment we acknowledge the change we can:

1 – BREATH
It is easier to keep calm and think clearly,when breathing.
Secondly we can actually get into really bad conditions if we don’t breath properly, specially when surprising news hits us.

2 – ACCEPT
Even if our body is about to explode when we tell it to accept
the situation as it is. Then accept the situation just as it is.
If we fail to accept use strategy 1 to accept.

3 – UNDERSTAND LOSS
Understand the kind of loss this situation has given
in the moment and for the future. Because that future just died.

If we have difficulties accepting the losses
go back to strategy 1 and strategy 2 –
and then go back to this strategy 3.
Remember to write down the thoughts
in order for them to leave our head and body.

4 – CREATE NEW VISION
Create the vision of the new life.

Even if it is tuff to create the vison of a new life (and trust us it can be)
then the best thing we can do is to give ourself some space and time
to create the vision of a new life.

Of course we cannot create it from one day to the other,
but the vision helps the body to move.
Remember that the vision can be changed while creating it in real life.

5 – BE PRACTICAL
Do what we can with what we’ve got where we are –
this way we don’t stress ourself about not being able to do things
because we think we need new things in order to create our new vision.

6 – PRIORITIZE
First things first, one step at a time.

If we start running fast in our actions and our thoughts,
then go back to strategy 1.

And then come back to this strategy 6
so we can get a nice overview of our new venue and where to start,
while breathing.

7 – FIND OUR CROWD
Stay with people who are on the same mission as we are.
We need people who push and support us on our journey.
We need people who sees our value and make us feel valued.

8 – BE GOOD TO OURSELF
Do everything we can to treat ourself as our own baby.

9 – HAVE FAITH
No matter what, have faith, everything will work out,
maybe not directly as we visualized but it will definitely work out.
Have faith.
🦄

Every human being experiences change in life, in some way or another.
Dealing with the change is the most important thing we can do
in order to empower ourself and get back on track,
creating the life story we can be proud of the day you die.

The 9 strategies here help us through the process of change.

Have Faith, We believe in you and your uniqueness.

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Marie + Anna

connect with us @piece4love.me <3

Miss Inconsistency

That’s me. Miss Inconsistency. Or was.

When I started understanding
the consequences of being bullied I got quite chocked.

Bullying can really ruin a persons life.

And for many years I thought something was wrong with me.

Due to unleashed traumas I kept walking in the same circle,

even I if started new life and got new relations.

I got into the same mill. The same happened.

And then I started second guessing myself,

until I read about the consequences of being bullied.

One of them is inconsistency, and limitlessness.

When I realised that I needed to figure out, why did I get

inconsistent? And I needed to figure out how to set my limits.

Well first of all,

I didn’t know myself and I didn’t know my crowd.

So when I kept staying with people who

  • turned me down
  • ignored my feelings
  • pushing my limits
  • criticised my ways of dealing with a situation

then I felt like crumbling inside,

like small explosions in my body that made me so tired.
That I couldn’t keep up with the life I was trying to create.

Sometimes it is difficult to stay away from people,
but nevertheless, in order to change I had to learn to set
my limits.

This caused lot of troubles, and I literally lost what I thought
was my crowd.

Because when I have been perceived as limitless,


it was ok to change my plans in the middle of a storm
without asking me…

it was ok to step on my feelings even if I said it hurts.

Then I would always be perceived as limitless..

No way, my limitlessness has been a result of the bullying I have
experienced since I was little,
not only bullying on me but also bullying on others.

Experiencing bullying in general for me has been so traumatic,
that without knowing it until now,
it has disrupted my efforts of creating a platform for my elder hood.

Today I am 44, and last time I started over again was as a
single mum in 2018, to a baby of 6 months, the daddy didn’t want to
stay with me, since he suddenly didn’t like everything he loved me for
before I became a mum.

That is ok, we cannot discuss feelings,
but the way I was treated forced me to
leaving my dream of raising a child near wild nature.
With a mom and a dad near to the child’s heart.

I had to go back to Copenhagen Denmark and start all over.

With only one heart near my child’s heart.

And then I read one book, that forced me to change my life
to get rid of the inconsistency that continuously has
disrupted my life.

One book that made me see and start a research of

how to change, to know my self and my crowd better.

And I needed to set my limits…..

The people who gave me the benefit of changing,

The people who stayed loyal,

The people who understood or at least tried

The people who respected my limits

The people who walked next to me all the way

Are my crowd

Do you want to know how I dealt with it.

Stay tuned, I am consistent now. And will tell more.

If you can’t wait…

Check out our no fee change program

Or check out our program on how to
know yourself better and be yourself more

It is your life

get the best out of it

Be Change

We are here for you

Marie & Anna

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ps. At the moment we are having a sales price on
the course about
knowing yourself better & being yourself more

pps. this was Anna’s story – thanks for reading all the way <3

How to change and reinvent myself

It is time. Time to reinvent myself. Or change my life radically.

Did you ever tried to reinvent yourself? Or change radically?

Let me know about it if you wanna share it. Either in comments or write me anna@calledda.com

Reinventing myself is not something new for me,
but for the first time I have a kid by my side.

After 3 years as a full time home mum
I have to start earning money.
I have lived on savings and had no help from social securities.

Not even the famous Danish maternity leave..
I’ve paid everything myself

And the last 6 months
with a lot of help from my parents and my boyfriend.
I am so grateful.

But… my son is still home because he literally
doesn’t like to go to the kindergarten.

So I have to reinvent myself, change my life
since I am not able to return to what we can call a normal life
with a job away from home.

How I reinvent / change myself

Since I have tried to reinvent my self before
I’ll share with you my most important steps when starting.

It is not something that happens overnight, but some things
can be dealed with quite fast.

First I take a look at my values, do they still work?

The strange thing is, that when I first started
to work with myself, I didn’t have my own values.
Now I know my values and I can also see when I get
or let myself get disrupted in living by my values.
I can also see that the value of having alone time has to be
changed, since it is not working at all with my son at home.

Not that I can’t give myself alone time, but it is conditioned
with my son, and I have to deal with that.

Which means that talking on the phone with friends
needs to be minimised since my alone time is so precious
and I cannot spend it on the phone even if I loved too.

How I valued myself

My values and how I value myself are two different things.

And again in the beginning I didn’t know my value,
Now I know my value, I uplift people, it is a big value.


I make people believe in themselves, and I help people heal.
But first of all my value is that I help people
in knowing themselves better
in order to be themselves more.

I began to see my value when I observed what people
wanted from me and what I got back. Not as a calculation
of who gives what to the table.
but more an analysis of the communication in-between.

I have not written all my values or all my value,
these are examples on how I work with myself.

I will share with you, that it has been very difficult to live by
my values and to see my value due to how I once saw the world.

But I’ll also share with you what kind of knowledge I have used
in order to deal with change and reinvention of my life.

Sometimes change comes unexpected and sometimes we
deliberately change.

Here you find the 9 steps on how to deal with change.

Get the best out of it.

Anna

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ps. I’ll let you know more about my change to home working fulltime mom.