Don’t try to fit in – You already do

When I arrived here at the planet in this body,
I had some difficulties in finding out how do I fit in?

3 thoughts really occypying my mind. 

Why all this asfalt? 

Where are all my horses?

And how come the adults treat us kids so bad?

Yelling at us, maybe hitting us,
and maybe other real cruel things.

Then putting us into institutions with other adults..
maybe not that cruel in Denmark
but still the languages of the adults could be so harming
and surpressing – 

That sometimes I thought –

why did they even work here
or why did they even wish me here on earth. 

Then I had a realisation
(I was playing with some toycats and I got angry with GOD
because he didn’t play with me and the cats and
that I had to sit here all by myself)

…the realisation was that I had been here before,
and there was something I didn’t learn last time I was here…
and then came to me that I chose myself to come again,
because of the unfinished business.

It was before I met my best friends mum who is Buddhist.

I think I was about 3-4 years old.

Today I am 43 years old. 

I have never fittet into society 

I have never found a ”real” job

I don’t have a house or a dog or a car

I don’t have a pension

But what I do though have is

time

a good payable apartment 

a bigger life experience than I ever imagined,
and I want to experience more

I have had the pleisure to be a home mommy
with my son for 2 years from when he got born,
I’ve paid it myself, instead of saving the money
I got from my beloved grandmother now on the other side.

It was a choice,
and I am so grateful today that I ’ve had that possibility.
Thank You Grandma <3

 Time ago my Astrologer JonnaStardust told me to see
my self as a butterfly that flies from place to place.

And actually – when I think like that I fit in.   

I don’t fit in when I think of me being a working
human being from 7-16.

But I love to work. But in another way.

Now in this era of human beings life we don’t only need clarity,
now we also need force and action in order to save the children. 

Why do I say this, because it’s the most important action
we can do in order to create a world where everybody
feel they fit in. 

But not by producing more toys or clothings,
but by producing more consciuos parenting and we do that
by creating more conscious living first. 

By saving our self first from past guilt and past traumas. 

And starting to work with our children,
the nature and with the animals and not against them.

And my biggest message

here is our soul is not hurted from our traumas – 

 We cannot hurt the soul,

only the body and the ego mind can get hurt.

Because remember when we meditate; we say –

I am not this body nor am I this mind – 

So what has happened to us in every past

harmed our body and our mind 

but never our soul. 

This is why souls come back in order to finish

what they came here for. 

If the mission is not fulfilled the souls will come back,

no matter what happened in previous times here on earth.

Souls, just like you and I

We are all free 

We are all equal 

We are untouchable

And we already fit in.

This means that

when you litterally
can step away from your ego
and your mind

(and your circumstances and the people around you ),
then you start feeling
your soul and you can start working from there. 

This is what I did and still do –  in order to let my soul rule,
and wauw did it rule in this post,
never had I ever let my mind and ego that much away. 

I felt like I fitted just perfectly in.

Anna Ulrike 

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How to be successful when broke

My latest blogpost was about success, (Give Up & Get Success)

but can we be successful

if we are broke?

Many years ago being a student, life felt a bit broke

economically speaking.

In a period where I really wanted to travel every summer

and didn’t have that much money in the bank,

I still managed to travel once a year. And maybe even twice.

And this is how I did it:

I sold stuff and clothings I didn’t use anymore.
And I was kean on cleaning my clutter often.

I stopped buying freezing bags and used either
tupperware I already had or the bag from the bread
I bought in the supermarket.

I stopped buying plasticbags when grocery shopping.
(In Denmark we pay for them)

Furthermore I saved money on the electricity bill

by shutting down all standby devices when not in use.

I always had a little sandwich or fruit with me when
going out so I could avoid spending money on food.

And of course I had my own perfect water bottle.
(In Denmark a 0.5 l bottle of water can easily cost 2 eur)

Just by changing small things

in my daily habits of consumerism

I saved a lot of money. And I could travel.

The thing is, at that moment when studying, and being

broke, I didn’t feel that successful. I felt as a broke student.

But then today, when I look back,

I actually find myself quite successful as a broke student.

I managed to travel and live in my apartment – and study.

Being broke.

That’s actually not broke.

That’s prioritising once resources and that’s a successful
skill in my opinion – today.

I just couldn’t see it then.

Are you able to look at yourself and give yourself credit?

I hope so, you deserve it just as much as I did.

With love

Anna Ulrike
Piece 4 Love

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pps. I now realise that not only did I save
money like this, I actually also save energy and
I save the world for unnecessary production an garbage.

Values – do you know your own?

Values plays a big role in how we live our life,

because
values are the principles and standards of behaviour;
of what is important in life.

From what you spend your time on doing – is where you
create your future.

This is why it is so important to know ones values in order
to create the life that make you happy.

I actually didn’t know that when I was 20.

I started to hang out with people with whom
I had one interest in common.

But there was a lot of situations where we didn’t
have the same values. But I sticked to that group,
and I actually had a lot of conflicts, just because …

we didn’t have the same values.

Furthermore I was grown up with a
lot of discussions about whether my
values and wishes was justified.

Of course
all wishes and values cannot be met,
but at least they can be listened to and acknowledged.

Sometimes when we are told something several times
we start believing in it, specially when we are children
and trust with our hearts the primary care person/s
in our life.

I didn’t know that I had to live
by my values in order to create a life based on what I like.

So instead of going all in
– creating my life on my own values,
I kept created a life based on other people’s values.

So actually I was never happy deep down, only ok.

Maybe sometimes I got a little insane because my
inner voice told me something but my inner pleaser
wanted me to do something else.

And for many years I struggled between
pleasing other people
and figuring out how to be happy myself.

When I look back at my life 20 years ago, I had an idea
of what my values were.

But I got so confused,
because I had difficulties in finding the crowd
where I felt I belong.

I was a little a ahead with my values.

I wanted clean water, clean air and clean food.

And in the peak of the 90’ies and the 00’es these
were not common values.

I tried olive after the values of the capitalism
and the consumerism.

But little were I happy.

When I became a mum I had to go back
and remember my values in order to create

a perfect balance between my own values

and the values of my son.

It wasn’t easy and I am still working on it.

But I am doing it and I am changing.

This time deliberately.

And I like it.

If you want to know how I deal with change

please get my Freebee right here:

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ps. I am a little late with this post, but I am trying to go with the flow, and not demand to much of myself, the astrological aspects suggests to take everything easy. And my life gets easier when I flow with the energies around us.


The best summer ever – even if the world has changed

We can all have it,

the best summer ever, even if the world has changed.

The important is not Change itself,

it’s about how we deal with change.

If we look up change in the dictionary it means:

So change can either be something we do ourself

or change can be something

that is changed from the outside.

Sometimes we change,

sometimes the circumstances we live in change.

Life can change from a moment to another –

in this case it is difficult to prepare for the change.

But still if you know how to deal with change –

it becomes easier to deal with it and go with the change.

If you have to move then it is a good example of

where you can be able to prepare for a change.

In this period of our lifetime the circumstances changed…

So we are forced to change the way we live,

even if we don’t want it to.

Some of us are not aloud to travel yet

some of us don’t have the money because we couldn’t work

some of us have to change our way of living and working.

So how to get the best summer ever?

As I point out in my Free Summer Camp

You can embrace change

and empower yourself in the change

by knowing the steps of how to deal with it.

Accepting and acknowledging

that the situation has changed are some of the first steps.

Combining mental exercises with practical exercises

can help us through the process of change.

And when I studied these different practices I

wondered:

Why

isn’t we taught about

how to prepare for certain life situations?

How do we tackle the loss of a family member?

How de we tackle long term disease?

How do we tackle if we get fired?

In my own life I have changed direction so many

times that I don’t even recall them all.

Some of the changes was deliberate –

when I left a relation after many many years.

Other changes were not deliberate –

when a roomie started a fire in my apartment.

Some of the changes I handled really well, and some

I didn’t handle that well.

And when I started studying how change and loss

actually can affect human beings I was sure about

having to share the knowledge.

Find it here –> And get the best summer ever <3

Thanks for reading

With Love

Anna Ulrike
Piece 4 Love

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The Limitless Life – not knowing myself

One of the consequences of not knowing myself, is the

difficulties I have and have had with knowing my limits

and setting my boundaries.

My personal limits.

Maybe I was raised

with not being aloud to have my own limits

which concludes the consequences: difficulties

in setting limits later on in my life.

I don’t know the exact Why of

having difficulties in setting my limits.

I think a lot about it,

because the consequence of not setting my

limits in time is that I feel bad

or I make other people feel bad…

because I explode in the end.

Once again I was maybe too nice

Too understanding

Too pleasing

Too compassionated

But Hey… I am actually trying to set my limits…

…the thing is … my limits are difficult for other people

because it means they have to change behaviour .

But Hey… me too I need to change behaviour when other

people set their limits. And if I want to stay with them

I have to respect their limits.

So here comes my point,

where is the difference in me telling

my limit and another person telling their limit?

Some people say I am too nice when I set my limit,

but I can’t see how I can be too nice.

I mean a limit is a limit.

And isn’t better to get the limit before I explode ? =)

So if you ever see a person explode, maybe it is because

some other person cross their limit big time.

And instead of thinking that the person who explodes

is the problem,

it could might be the other person not respecting

a limit, who is the real problem.

I’ve been judged myself as being a

hysterical, yelling and crazy lady.

Just because other people didn’t respect my limit and kept

overstepping my boundaries.

And actually it can be tough being seen as the problem

when the problem is actually another.

Is overstepping another persons boundaries

the same as

bullying?

I believe it could be.

Because as I write in my post about bullying

bullying means to seek to harm or to intimidate

another person.

And when not respecting another persons limits

it could turn out being harmfull or intimidating.

So again, if you ever see a person – an adult or a child

freak out,

then it could be a reaction to a kind of bullying

that is not at all healthy.

When living and working with people who continuously

crossed my limits well knowing that it was a limit for me

I started getting in alarm mode – it actually means

that instead of being able to use my skills in the best way –

I used half of my skills being in alarm mode

and half my skills living my life or doing my job.

Which actually means that when I look back on my past

I did spent a lot of time shutting down other peoples fire

against me.

And now I see

Why I always was fighting …

I couldn’t concentrate,

I couldn’t focus,

And I couldn’t stay on the track of my dreams

because I spent my energy on things that were not

working for me at all.

When I realised that I had to change –

I had to do my life differently, and

I am still working on it every day.

To set my boundaries and only stay in relationships

where I feel worshipped.

Of course people can without knowing it cross a limit,

but when they know the limit and have access to

respect this limit.

Then not respecting the limit is a bully’s act.

It’s a delicate balance being able to set the boundaries

and at the same time make space for other people’s

boundaries.

Good Luck <3

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What is wrong with me ?

I continuously asked my self: What is wrong with me?

Until I realised there is nothing wrong with me.

There was something wrong with my way of living.

Well it wasn’t wrong, I was doing things that didn’t work.

For me.

I could see it worked for other people, but I felt wrong

trying to live the same kind of life.

It didn’t work for me having a fulltime job. I’ve tried.

Several times.

That doesn’t mean I don’t like to work.

But I am more project related and

I can work for 100 hours in one week.

That means that I then need to relax in the other end

in order to get my house and my sleep back on track.

But then I missed a big point.

What if letting myself into dysfunctional

relationships – what if that was actually the reason

for not being able to work fulltime.

I have read several articles that it could be the fact.

And when I look at the pattern.

It takes me around 2-3 days to get over an attack of

overwhelm after being bullied.

In these days after I can be really tired,

I can have difficulties in concentrating –

and then the worst thing

…. all the small explosions inside my body,

but they call out for another blogpost.

After studying myself for years I realised

that I would never

get the answer of why

I have difficulties in working fulltime.

Maybe it’s because

I am an double air sign,

maybe it’s because of my

experiences when growing up,

maybe it’s because I am full of energy,

maybe its because of the bullying…

maybe maybe maybe….

But one thing is sure,

there is and was nothing wrong with me.

After becoming a mom.

I realised that I’ve spent to much time

listening to other peoples opinion about me,

instead of following my intuition and knowing myself.

Go with the flow

And I had to start over once again in life.

But instead of thinking of what is wrong with me

– I try to figure out

how can I make this work. For me.

Something that works for me is
to shot the world out and empty my brain.

Just not having to deal with inputs from the outside –

and no thoughts about future, problems or relations.

And then I enjoy the nature, specially the sea.

Here I don’t feel wrong or right.

Everything is just a nice flow of energy –

and I don’t have to judge whether I like it or not.

I am.

Me.

And I am not wrong. I am totally right.

And so are you.

Remember that.

Hugs and love

Anna Ulrike

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Bullying, its Consequences, How to deal with it

This article focus on bullying.

Its meanings, its consequences and how to deal with it

– if you are being bullied.

THE MEANING

The verb – bully means – to seek to harm or to intimidate.

You can bully or you can be bullied.

That is not at all a nice thing to harm somebody

or being harmed from somebody.

Because – harm means physical injury,

especially that which is deliberately inflicted…

Even if it’s a word or an action without touching,
being bullied hurts.

This means that a bully in someway or another
deliberately hurts the person that is bullied.

Who decides if a word or and action hurts?

The person whome that word or action is used against.

Because when something is hurting it is also pain,
and pain is subjective.

It is therefore up to the person who is hurt
to decide the level of the pain.

– This concludes that nobody else than

the person who is bullied

– decides if certain words or actions

are hurting or not


THE CONSEQUENCES

What happens to the bullied depends on
how strong he or she is before the bullying has started.

In the moment of the bullying action
the bullied person can feel some sort of pain.

It can be pain in the stomach like a sick rollercoaster,

it can be sudden headache,

it can be a feeling of loosing all energy in the body
manifested as a rollercoaster in the legs.

The pain felled in the moment of the bullying action,
can rest in the body for a long time,

for hours and even for days.

This can cause problems as:

  • difficulties in concentration
  • insomnia
  • difficulties in relationships
  • anxiety
  • depression
  • self destruction
  • abuse

Separately and together these problems can cause

other big challenges as

  • keeping up with school
  • fulfilling a career
  • keeping a relationship to a spouse

So to sum up, bullying is a really bad thing,

and to be bullied generates a lot of other consequences

which we only see by time in the life of the bullied.

A person who bullies can definitely

be bullied him or herself

So if you are bullied – in order for you to be able to live a life
where you see progress the most of the time:

  • stop listening to peoples destructive criticism
  • get out of relationships in which you are being bullied
  • start healing yourself

Since this article focus on how to deal with bullying,

an article on how to stop to listen to destructive criticism
and an article how to get out of relationships
in which you are being bullied… are under creation.

DEALING WITH BULLYING

When you suffer from being bullied doesn’t mean that
you’re a victim or weak.
The suffering is your body showing you
by a physical reaction what your brain
yet has difficulties dealing with.

It can be tough to realise that you are getting bullied,
especially when you realise who is bullying you.

So in order to deal with the bullying you can do as following:

Recognise the situations in which you feel you get bullied.

Stay out of these situations or prepare yourself
on how you want
these situations to turn out in your favour.

If it’s at work you are getting bullied then start being strategic
when you ask for help or if you turn in a project.
If you know a certain person will say a stupid comment,
prepare yourself on how you would like to see yourself be cool.

If it’s in a close relationship group you’re getting bullied
then have less contact as possible.
Even though that also hurts.
But maybe the less contact can give you time for
healing and thereby being able to cope with your own life.

The thing with people who bullies is that it’s so difficult to
for them to see how their actions are bullying you.

They can’t see that when they change your schedule
and programmes without asking it is hurting you.

They cannot see when they use destructive criticism

I mean first time is maybe ok, shit happens.
But if you start to see a pattern of words and actions
that hurt you, and if they don’t want to change that pattern.

Then it is not good company.

Some bullies even try to tell you that it is all your own fault

or that you misunderstood everything

– if you try to confront them with how they act.

A friend would show you they are sorry for hurting you,
without questioning and that he or she will do her best
to avoid to put you in a situation like that.
– A bully would say that you’ve put yourself into this situation.

And even if you did allow people to step on you or overrule you
– it doesn’t allow them to take advantage of you.

Like in hurting you or making you feel like a less worthy person
by their words or actions or both.

In the moment of the bullying – Try not to react even if it’s difficult.

Instead keep focusing on your breath and your mind.

Make sure you don’t take in what they are saying.

Tell them that you disagree so much about this situation
that there is no need to talk further.

And keep repeating that if they don’t stop.

It is ok to leave a room or a place if people don’t stop
if you’ve asked them to do so.

Just keep focusing on your breath and your mind.

Being bullied is never fun and it can have some serious
consequences if you don’t deal with it in time.

Trust me I know, this is why I started writing about life
on my blog. I realised the tough consequences of not
being able to see the patterns going on in my life.

The limits to my personal growth.

I thought there was something wrong with me,
and I’ve spend hours and money to know myself better,
change myself and then I realised I didn’t do anything wrong.

I just didn’t know better, now I know, not all
but I share what I know.

Thank you so much for reading my text,
I hope you can use it many years ahead
and protect yourself from bullies.

Do you have any questions on bullying – let me know, either in
the comment felt or write me an email: anna@calledda.com

If you want to empower yourself you can
learn how to deal with sudden changes
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I fucked it all up – No! I didn’t know better

Sometimes I really feel like I’ve fucked it all up.

My career

My possibility to create my own family

My dreams

My friends

My network

My Life

but looking at the facts – I just didn’t know better.

The first and most important fact is that I late realise
that I grew up in what is called a dysfunctional family.

Secondly,

if I don’t fix the wounds in time from my childhood
in descent time, I can bring some stupid patterns
into my life. And these patterns are really difficult to change
specially if I stay with people who also live by these patterns.

I didn’t know that.

So for more than 20 years I have spent
hours and money working on
my dreamlife only seeing my work crack.

The dream crack.

The relationships crack.

Several Times.

And now after more than 20 years – I realise –

I didn’t know better.

Actually I did my best with the tools I had.

But I couldn’t see why I couldn’t fulfil my dreams.

I couldn’t see why even if I changed my dreams
and let go of everything.

I still ended up feeling like a failure.

Then I got a child.

And then I saw my childhood again.

And then I realised I had a missing Piece.

A missing Piece of Knowledge.

I did not Know Myself.

And then I realised why everything always fell apart.

You

I was missing that Piece, in order to heal myself in that
past when my life started a pattern
that was not healthy for me.

A pattern that I kept returning to –
that only ended up with me burning
my candle light in both ends.

At some moments I didn’t even know ny favourite dish anymore.

Call that brain wash of one self.

Maybe it is self bullying.

A bad pattern that allowed
bullyship in my mind and my body.

But still it was not my fault.

I didn’t know better. And so was the case for the people
who brought me up with this kind of understanding.

They didn’t know better.

But now I know, and I take that responsibility

– for me and my child

to get out of unhealthy patterns
and unhealthy believe systems that brings us no further.

It is called social heritage –
it is not mandatory to accept it
but the only way out is to change patterns.

And heal.

Heal on the wounds from the early past
in order to recover and do life in the best possible way.

And I healed, I heal, every day.

And then the Pieces came together.

Funny that I 8 years ago named my blog Piece 4 Love.

At that moment it was a fashion blog – covering brands

with focus on responsible sustainability

And that every Piece of clothing would remind us of the love

we give the world by being responsible consumers.

When I started transforming the blogcontent into knowledge of life

I didn’t know why, and that was why I stopped the journey I was loving…

The reason for not seeing my why, was the fact that I stopped
listening to my intuition and that I stopped being myself.

This is due to the bad patterns that I kept returning to.

But after getting my son and then becoming a single mom,
I saw the missing Piece.

And then I changed, I healed, I restructured my life,
and I am practicing my new routines in order to stay on track
and leave the bad patterns and belief systems behind.

Forever.

A last very important thing – It cost me a lot of money
not knowing myself decently. But money is nothing when I
compare to all my dreams and great relationships
that I left or left me

due to the fact – I didn’t know myself.

Maybe you have the same feeling or know someone
who can benefit from this.

We are not alone – we are together.

Never too late

Thank you for reading my post to the end,
let me know if you liked it,
and if you want to ask me about life, use the comment box below

or write me an email: anna@calledda.com

Tons of Love

Anna

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Change

.

Maybe I am a little stupid or

But I have decided not to put the picture of my son on the open internet….

A lot of people ask me why I can show my self and not my baby.

A lot of people ask me if I think other people are stupid for sharing their baby…

A lot of people ask for photos and I do send them in private messages.

It’s difficult to explain

I cannot explain why but since I am doubting so much about whether or not to put up a picture of my son I have decided not to put up any yet.

That does not mean that I think something bad of people who do. NO NOT at all. I think it’s nice to see the picture of my friends babies.

Even babies of people I don’t know I love.

And every baby is beautiful. Every baby has something special to share with all of us.

But I am still not ready to show mine to the world.

That’s why this post is without any pictures but one of me.

Please bear over with me and see you in my next blogpost where I talk about how I had to give up anything in order to feel successful 🤘

Until then, stay cool, calm and lovely as you are ❤